Dear Chat Daddy,
I recently found out that my 15-year-old granddaughter is three months pregnant, and she wants to keep the baby. Ever since she was 10 years old, her mother has been out on the streets doing her thing while trying to find herself, so my
We are trying to convince her to give the child up for adoption because our family does not believe in abortion. My husband and I are currently dealing with a financial hardship and think that the adoption would be in the child’s best interest. This has caused major conflict in our household. Please advise. -Not Going Half On A Baby
Dear Not Going Half On A Baby, This is definitely a touchy and sad situation. I can understand your reasons for not wanting her to keep the baby, but I feel that you should allow her to make her own decision. Even though adoption seems to be the best option for her at this point in her life, there are several programs that she could involve herself in to obtain assistance. What is the father doing and what does he plan to do? He needs to step up and take responsibility. If they decide to keep their child, many social service agencies and organizations provide teen moms the resources and support that they need. As a family, start with prayer because you will need strength in order to get through this ordeal, and it may be a good idea to seek family counseling in the process. She must stay in school while trying to gain employment. She and the father both must begin to save their money while learning how to be a lot more responsible. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it%uFFFDno pun intended. Definitely do not shove your and your husband’s opinions down her throat any longer%uFFFDyou will only make things worse. Here’s to your family gaining strength, motivation and endurance while coming together as one bonded unit in the midst of the storm. Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy, My 22-year-old son recently graduated from college, and my husband and I are very proud of his accomplishment. The problem: He has no motivation whatsoever to find employment and is still living at home with us. I honestly don’t understand why this is, and all he does is play video games and watch music videos all day. When we talk to him about finding a job, he responds, “I’ve been in school my whole life, I need a break!” This disgusts us, and frankly, we want him out of our home. It’s been a year, and he should be self-sufficient. Chat Daddy, he won’t even go out and apply for a job at a fast food restaurant, and I’m embarrassed. Every time different people ask me about him, I make up a story about how wonderful he’s doing. Please help. – My Son Is Allergic To Employment
Dear My Son Is Allergic To Employment, It seems as if he wants a free ride, and you are providing the train for him to ride. I would suggest that you and your husband have one final heart-to-heart with your son and pretty much lay down the law. It is ridiculous for him not to seek employment and lounge around all day as the world passes him by. Stick with your deadline and give him a certain amount of time to search%uFFFDno ifs, ands or buts. There are several employment agencies that can assist him in his search. He can also utilize his alma mater to network and get his name out there, not to mention the different career Web sites that he can use as tools. If you don’t speak up now, it will only get worse. Be encouraged.
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