Dear Chat Daddy,
I’m a 45-year-old woman who married a wonderful guy six months ago. He has accepted me and my three children with no problem. The real issue with our marriage is his mother. The woman is pure evil! She hates the fact that I am 15 y
Dear Chat Daddy, I’m a 45-year-old woman who married a wonderful guy six months ago. He has accepted me and my three children with no problem. The real issue with our marriage is his mother. The woman is pure evil! She hates the fact that I am 15 years older than her son and that I have been married twice before. She is always rude to me and calls me every bad name in the book. His mother does not allow me to visit her home and has even had his ex-girlfriend to call our home several times. I love this man dearly, but I will be damned if I let his mother come between us. Chat Daddy, should I confront her or what? -All She’s Missing Is A Broom Stick
Dear All She’s Missing Is A Broom Stick, What a mess! To confront or not to confront your mother-in-law can be a very tricky question. I’m really thinking that she is hating on you and your new marriage for various reasons. Don’t play into her mess. If you keep confronting her by yourself, it will only give her more fuel to continue her personal attacks against you. If, indeed, this has become an unbearable problem, then I want you to have a serious talk with your husband about his mother’s volatile behavior towards you. Start with saying to your husband, “I do not want to disrespect your mother, but I’m sick of her insults and crazy behavior towards me.” If he is in love with you, I’m sure he should be able to stand up to his mother and set her straight about her disrespectful behavior without losing the love of the two most important women in his life. Be encouraged.
Dear Chat Daddy, I’m a 35-year-old female who is having an issue with a guy I thought I was dating exclusively. I recently found out I wasn’t. I must admit that I was very vulnerable when I met this tall, dark and extremely handsome guy who has a great personality. We met over the summer, and I thought he was the man of my dreams until a trusted girlfriend told me that she was friends with his male lover and that my guy was on the down low. We have had unprotected sex a couple times because I thought he was the one. I’m shocked and confused about everything. Why would a man be attracted to women when he really wants to be with a man? I want to confront him, but I’m not sure how I will respond. Please advise. -Who Else Are You Sleeping With?
Dear Who Else Are You Sleeping With?, Let’s start with prayer about this entire situation because Black women are now the new face of HIV in America. Please make an appointment with your doctor to get tested to make sure that your health in not in danger. This letter is sad but true because you were dealing with someone who’s struggling on many different levels, and he’s now added you to his mess. I’m sure if you confront him, he will denounce everything about the relationship because he is not being honest with himself. There are a lot of men who are drawn to other men but do not consider themselves gay or bisexual. This guy is a snake and is truly playing a very dangerous game that needs to be stopped before he keeps destroying everyone for his own personal pleasure. I can’t say it enough: please practice safe sex and know your status!
Here’s wishing you and yours a very Merry Christmas, while remembering the real reason for the season!
Art “Chat Daddy” Sims can be reached via e-mail at chatdaddy@chicagodefender.com.
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